One of the most powerful gifts you can give to your romantic partner is the devotion to showing up well in your relationship. So here’s a fun gift idea:

Identify something you’re not great at in the relationship, something you know you need to work on to show up better for your partner (and ultimately for yourself and the relationship).

Buy a book on the topic, wrap it, and gift it to them with a note that the book is actually for yourself and that you’ll be devoting yourself to working on this area to be a better partner to them.

A few ideas for gifting to your masculine partner:

(all these books are rooted in showing up well as a woman, to understand and honor men)

• The Queen’s Code by Alison Armstrong

• Keys to the Kingdom by Alison Armstrong

• Making Sense of Men by Alison Armstrong 

• The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle

• my ebook A Woman’s Guide to Honoring Men

For gifting to your feminine partner:

• Understanding Women: Unlock the Mystery by Alison Armstrong

• Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

• No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover (if you’re a people pleaser)

Unisex:

• The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm (beautiful book on loving well)

• Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix (an OG when it comes to partnership)

• The Multi-Orgasmic Couple by Maneewan Chia and Mantak Chia (for those who want to give some attention to their sex life)

• The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo (if you’re the messy one!)

• Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth by Brad Blanton (if you have a tendency of bending the truth)

• It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn (if you notice your past is tormenting you/ affecting how you show up)

• When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron (if you’ve been through a hard time recently and can’t seem to get out of your funk)

• Hold me Tight by Sue Johnson (if you have a tendency of interrupting)

These are just a handful of ideas that might resonate!

Remember: the book you gift is something you need to work on. Get radically real with yourself about this, and don’t make it a passive-aggressive way to invite your partner to work on something, too. This is about you becoming a better person, a better partner. Choose wisely!